Between a rock and a hard place. My youngest is in a detention center; they can release her to my parents in NY and she'd be free of probation, but she'd be back to her old habits and wrecking everyone's lives. If she's released to me, I lose my home - Capt A does NOT want her back in the house.

The third option is going to a residential facility. The probation officer had initially told me that there weren't any that could address my youngest's issues. Well, my parents spoke to her as well and we all agreed that Teri's issues need to be addressed before she is released. So I was informed that I would have to pay for her to stay at the residential facility - it would be prorated to my pay.

There are three possible places. Windsor Point is the closest, three miles past Red Lion. I can't drive, but at least it's closer than Clearview, which is about 2.5 hours away. They also offered Adelphoi Village, which would be in another county altogether - too far from me and any family at all. Adelphoi Village, however, would be independent living and give her the skills she needs to live on her own.

I don't want her far away from me. I can't drive. So the choice is, the closer one that may be a bit of a struggle, or the far one that gives her the skills she needs? And if the farther one, do I give up my love and my life here to move close to her? She would also be giving up her love (who lives in NY). Can I sacrifice that?

I will ask her tonight. Then I'll decide. If I tell Oddity, he will stress over this and I don't want to add to his stress level. I wanted to just love him and relax; it's not going to happen. I still have some negative karma to pay for, it seems.